When I meet someone who is new to infertility, I always have in mind a few things I’d like to share with them if the opportunity arises. One is that infertility is a multi-faceted loss. It’s not just not having a baby. As you move through your grief, you have to face new losses, big and small, that haven’t occured to you before. Some big losses on my list were: the ability to plan your future, genetic continuity, being “like other people”, experiencing the fullness of what our bodies were made to do and parenting the next generation.
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