Mon 9 Apr 2007
Dear Birthmother
Posted by Jane under Updates
[15] Comments
Today is Simon’s actual birthday, although we celebrated on Saturday. We weren’t there for Simon’s birth. In fact, the day Simon was born we were out having Indian food to celebrate my birthday. Today I want to acknowledge and thank the woman who brought our boy into this world. The following are some things we know and don’t know about you, his birthmother…
We don’t know what you look like, but we do know that you are beautiful, just like your son.
We don’t know what your life is like, but we know you are extremely brave.
We don’t know why you weren’t able to raise this child, but we do know that you love him very much.
I can only imagine how strong you must have been to come to a hospital in labor and tell the nurses you intended to place your baby for adoption. To endure the pain of his birth and then leave the hospital 10 hours later. To freely give this gift without asking anything in return. Thank you for filling out a medical history. I know you must be thinking about him today and I wish I could call you and tell you that he’s okay. That he’s so loved and so happy. That he’s the brightest, sweetest and cutest boy I know. That you did such good work when you made him. And that you should be proud of the life you’ve given him.
Simon is the most precious gift I’ve ever been given, I will never be able to repay you. Just know that you are loved by Simon and by me. Here is our boy with his first birthday cake:
Thank you, Jane.
OK, Jane: you can stop making us all cry any time now. Seriously, though, what a great post and such loving thoughts for a woman you never met.
I agree! (sniff)
I had tears in my eyes as I read this. I’m so glad that Simon’s birthmother loved him so much that she gave him a chance at a wonderful life with you guys.
The divine Providence of Our Father is so bountiful – to those that give and those that recieve. Thank you God Almighty.
Love,
Jackie
Pass the tissues, please! Happy birthday, Simon! Just as you are such a wonderful gift, God picked some pretty amazing people to be your parents. Maybe one day I’ll tell you some stories Lots of love to all of you
happy birthday, simon! what a lucky boy you are to have been given such a wonderful family!
Dear Ones,
I like to brag to my friends that I always learn something new from my children. It’s true! I do!
Reading this post, dedicated to Simon’s birthmother, reminds me once again of the sensitivity & depth of understanding with which the two of you view your world. Your insights are a blessing to me:)
As Papa Wayne said, “Simon! You the man!” & I can’t wait to see you ride that scooter!
I don’t know. It really looked to me like Jane blew out that candle.
Happy Birthday adorable Simon! What a year for you and your family. A really big, full year. You’ve all got really big, full hearts. All of you. I’m so glad to know you, Andy and Jane, and I look forward to knowing the kids, too. I’ve got a pretty white horse waiting for them to ride in a year or two. I’ll eat some cake in your honor today, Simon. Don’t go nuts on frosting, Ramona.
I cried and cried when I read this Jane. What a wonderful tribute to the birth mother and what a wonderful gift to Simon when he looks back on this and reads this letter some day. You have touched me so as an adoptive mother myself. Truely these women are braver than anyone we know and we are so thankful for this incredible gift of these children. Praise God for Simon and his first birthday!!!! May he grow and prosper and know Jesus at an early age
Sniff. That was beautiful.
Thank you for sharing both the letter and video.
Happy Birthday Simon!
jane, this is awesome. thank you for sharing. is simon’s hand a magic wand? i swear he “blew” out the candles with his hand. how very talented!
if by some miracle simon’s birth mother read this, i know she would be filled with joy and be proud of the decision that she made. you are an amazing mother and simon is a part of a great family…he couldn’t have been placed in a better home.
Amazing, amazing, amazing – such sweet words to put out there Jane. And Happy Birthday Simon!
Great message… Ditto everything they said.
Simon is a wonderful lil’ man (though I’m partial to you know who in the video).
Happy Birthday Simon! He really is the cutest, brightest, and sweetest. What beautiful thoughts for Simon and his birth mother.