Tue 25 Nov 2008
Bonus Round
Posted by Jane under Updates
[24] Comments
So, I talked to the cath surgeon and cardiologist today. They both felt that the initial evaluation from Halloween’s cath was correct. Dr. Wax, the cath surgeon, spoke with a colleague at Cleveland who reviewed Ramona’s angiograms and also concurred. He is still waiting to hear from another colleague who is out of the country.
So this is where things stand: Ramona will no longer undergo early, frequent interventions. The benefits are “uncertain” and the risks too high. Instead we will wait until her sats fall into the low 70’s or so and then reevaluate what might be done. There is no consensus on how long that might take. The cardiologist said that although her arteries have “grown significantly” since her first surgery, they are nowhere near normal and she “without a doubt” will not qualify for the full repair anytime soon. She also indicated it was unlikely she would ever be a good candidate for repair. Dr. Wax and his colleague both agreed that this was one of the “worst” presentations of this heart defect that they had seen.
None of this is entirely new information for us, but it is still hard. I’ve decided that since we have no idea how long Ramona might live we owe it to her and Simon to provide a home of hope and life. Although not one day passes that I don’t consider Ramona’s mortality, I hope that both she and Simon can pass many happy days without that specter hanging over them. And I have to constantly remind myself that none of us knows what time we may have together. It’s a good reminder to me to try and stay in the moment and enjoy my two little beauties for who they are today, not who they may or may not be in the future.
So after the holidays Andy and I will begin the process of soliciting second opinions. I trust our team at Children’s and do not expect to hear anything drastically different anywhere else, but you never know and I think now we’re at the point where it would be irresponsible not to ask around. Tomorrow Ramona turns two! I will post some pics of her smiling birthday face tomorrow, but for now here’s a shot of our last day playing with the leaves!
Thanks for your prayers and notes and comments, they mean a lot to me…
Jane.
Jane,
There are no words, really. I’m mourning with you…
You’re right, though. None of us knows how many days we have. All of our lives are in God’s hands.
I’m praying for peace for you. Many many wonderful days and years for Ramona. You guys are loved….
Dear Ones: Jane, Andy, Simon, Ramona!
Thank you for this update, Jane – a beautiful testimony to your love and understanding. You encourage ME:)
Ramona looks great! Happy Birthday, Sweetheart:)
Holding you all close in thought & prayer!
Oh, Jane. I am sorry the news wasn’t better today. I applaud you and Andy for seeking other opinions. That’s courageous and hopeful. And without hope, we have…nothing.
You have an exquisite gift with words. I can understand everything you write on one level of information-sharing, and then feel the deep undercurrent of feelings beneath the words you write. I always have an emotional reaction when I read one of your posts, even when it’s been a simple walk-in-the-park kind of post. How about writing a book or a parenting column in all of your free time?
I will attempt to follow your wise lead and live in the now and enjoy the people in my life for who they are now, not who they will be or who I hope they will someday be. (That goes for the adults, too!)
As always, thank you for sharing your family’s journey.
I wish I had words of peace and hope to offer, but find that they fail me now.
In lieu, I am offering up prayers, prayers never ceasing.
These are hard things to hear. I will pray for a miracle and believe in it!
Thanks for sharing your thoughts…xoxox
Very sobering. We’ll keep praying for a miracle.
Happy birthday, Ramona! You look lovely.
I can’t believe she is already 2! Such a cutie, beauty and funny little blessing. While I hate to hear that the news remains the same I am happy to hear that the plans for homestead are about enjoying life in the here and now.
Gratitude begets miracles, big and small.
lots of love, Erin
Jane-
I don’t know what to say except that I’m thinking of you, Andy, Simon and sweet little Ramona, and sending you so much love and blessings. What a beautiful family you have–I know that you’re cherishing every day with each of them.
Lots of love and peace of mind to you, Lady Jane,
Erica
Will be praying for sweet little Ramona. Miracles happen.
We will continue to pray for a complete and miraculous healing. God can do far beyond what any surgeon can!! I think you are wise to get 2nd opinions and though you must face the truth of Ramona’s situation, not give up hope!
This question may have been asked before and it may be an ignorant one but would Ramona ever be a candidate for a heart transplant?
Keep going, guys! ‘One day at a time’ is the motto in our house over the past year. Please feel free to use it.
Godspeed.
Paul
Dear Andy and Jane,
Even in the short time we’ve been reconnected through the wonders of the Internet, I’ve been amazed at your spirit and attitude. It’s beautiful, if heartbreaking, to read about how you’re approaching this difficult path life is giving you. All I can say is “carry on”– it sounds like you’ve got the right idea. My thoughts are with you and hope Ramona enjoys her birthday!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, Ramona. I continue to petition our Creator, the Author of life and love, mercy and grace for your complete healing. I ask that He hold you in the hollow of His hand and give you strength and comfort.
I love you, Sweet Pea.
So sad to hear the news, but yet still praying. Ramona looks so pretty! Give her a birthday kiss for me.
Jane, I admire your strength and I pray that you continue to have this strength as you live in each moment. Most of all, I wish Ramona a very happy 2nd birthday. What a beautiful little girl!
Happy, Happy Birthday sweet Ramona! You are all in our thoughts. Such an adorable picture of Miss. Ramona in the leaves!!
We continue to pray for all of you.
Enjoy the birthday celebration! Cant wait to see pictures.
WOW you have a house full of twos. So much fun!
blessings,
Nicole
May God bless you and your beautiful family on this holiday of Thanksgiving. We certainly give thanks for you in our lives.
I am praying for you and for your sweet daughter’s health! May God’s mercy give you strength and hope in uncertain times. His grace and love is infinite.
Much love,
SL
I echo the messages above. Thinking about you, praying for the total healing of Ramona’s heart. Love. af
I have followed Ramona’s story for two years now and continued to be inspired by her and your family. My heart believes that there is good news to come. You are in my prayers.
Thinking of you, Jane! I will continue to pray for miracles and hope we can find the answers we are all looking for. Happy Birthday to Ramona!
(((Hugs)))
Liza
Happy birthday Ramona! It has been a joy to watch her grow and thrive over these past 2 years.
We appreciate the reminder to all of us to stay in the moment and to create a home of hope and life. We are thinking of Ramona and your family on this special birthday and Thanksgiving holiday and are thankful to have you all in our lives.
Love,
The Gibbs Fam
Happy birthday, Ramona!
We’re so sorry to hear this news. Your words are inspiring, though, and I’ll try, too, to live in the moment and enjoy (and feel grateful) for each moment. We’ll continue to think good thoughts for you and your family.
xoxo
Jane and Andy
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year belattedly. Never give up hope.. You are always in my prayers.
Love
Aunt Rose