Tue 28 Apr 2009
Drip, Drip, Drip
Posted by Jane under Updates
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I spoke with the cardiologist this morning very early. I think we’ve gotten some good news. She was able to meet with the CV surgeon and cath surgeon last night to discuss Ramona’s care and it sounds like we have a good plan.
First she answered some questions that Andy have had this past week. The propranolol that Ramona is taking is to treat a muscle spasm happening in the heart tissue right below her conduit. We had some concern that this was caused by an electrical problem that would effect the conductivity of her heart. But Dr. Vitullo (the cardiologist) believes that it is not an electrical problem but a plumbing problem and that once we relieve the stress on that part of her heart it will resolve.
The team also seems to agree that the conduit is now significantly obstructed. We knew she would eventually outgrow this conduit but did not know when. Best estimates at the time were around 18 months or two years of age so it’s great that it’s done so well for so long. She’s like the Mars Rover! It sounds like Dr. Backer (the CV surgeon) feels she could tolerate and benefit from a larger conduit. That’s great.
So the plan is to go ahead with the cath on May 21st. Dr. Wax (the cath surgeon) will try and dilate the narrowed areas on the left branching pulmonary artery. The more he can dilate, the bigger the conduit could be and the longer it might last. Then all films will be sent out for second opinions to both the Cleveland Clinic and Stanford. After the options are discussed we will likely move forward with another open heart procedure, possibly in the summer or early fall. All of this is very tentative and we are not sure of the timing, except for the cath. So I feel hopeful. Hopeful that time is not running out for Ramona. Hopeful that she is going to get the best possible care. At the same time, I am scared and anxious. Who knew open heart surgery could qualify as good news?
Simon is taking all of this kind of hard. I had to go to a doctor’s appointment for myself today. We were waiting for so long that Simon fell asleep in the waiting room, so I left him sleeping in the stroller (with the receptionist watching of course) and took Mona into the examining room with me. When Simon woke up and realized we were gone he panicked. He didn’t ask for me, he kept saying, “Where’s my Mona? She can’t stay here!”. He was mess, crying and sobbing until he was limp and taking big shivery breaths, even though we reappeared about a minute after he woke up. It was so sad and my heart breaks to see him so worried for her.
Last fall our basement flooded twice. It was pretty stressful, expensive and a big mess. It wasn’t the end of the world, we cleaned up, got some flood insurance and moved on. But every time it rains, we anxiously pace back and forth in the front windows; watching the skies and checking the radar. And although the basement has remained dry, every puddle that appears alongside the foundation reminds us that we have to stay vigilant. That the sump pump might fail, a gutter may overflow and then we’d be inundated. You know where I’m going with this right?
Last week was hard. She’s really fine, not much has changed and she was only in the hospital for two nights. But every drop of bad news seems to bring a flood of tears for what might happen. Every new medication brings visions of the bad old days of tube feeding and oxygen tanks. In between the rain I forget that we might lose her. Or I tell myself that I could accept it. But when the cardiologist told us that she saw some concerning things and that she needed to be admitted, the dam broke. I’ve cried and cried this past week in a way that I haven’t in a very long time.
It’s got me thinking about the mysterious way God works, how He decides who lives and who dies. When does He send rain and when do we get a flood? What effect do our prayers really have? I have no answers, only questions.
And finally, will you please pray for sweet Faith who is battling to survive her third open heart surgery? The flood her family is walking through makes our daily drama look like a trickle. Thanks for your prayers. Here are some photos of Ramona and Simon at their cutest (Here you go Kathy!):
She doesn’t mind the rain!
He’s three!
Contending with her favorite doggy’s tail!
He knows how to work the camera angles!
Guys,
Our heart and prayers go out to you guys. We ache for you, and yet are hopeful. It stinks to see this happening to such innocent and beautiful little wonders.
Man oh Man your little simon kills me. Crying just reading about his tender heart and your pained one. I am so sorry sweet friend. I wish there was something I could do to assure you or heal her. I continue to pray and wish I could hold you all.
Love
Jen
Praying for you guys and hoping you find the answers you are looking for!
((Heart hugs))
Liza (and Abby)
Thanks for sharing with us. Lord, please heal Ramona in Jesus’ name and be with the Deitrich family. Love to you all.
This is so beautifully written. Jane, I ache for you all and think of you often. Thank you for seeing the light in the darkness and the darkness in the light. You are an inspiration.
Jane, I am so glad to hear the good news. And I think it’s great that you’re sending the films out to two amazing heart centers! I’m sorry that poor Simon is being so affected by everything…I suppose we all are and children are just more transparent. Hang in there friend. I’ll call you soon to check in. In the meantime I’m praying for you guys and for Faith. =)
Also, I love the pictures! Your kids are so adorable!
First of all, ADORABLE pics. Thanks for posting those.
I’m so happy to know that you received positive news. A cath and OHS is great! That means there is hope about fixing your precious girl.
Have a good week, all of you. xo
ps. Melts my heart to know how worried Simon is about his sister. What a tender heart.
Thanks for the update, Jane. It is so good to know how to rejoice with you, and how to pray for your little tender shoots. Love to you all!
Thanks for the update Jane. We’ve been thinking about Ramona and are glad to hear of the hopeful news. Big brothers are something else, aren’t they? I enjoy imagining what a lovely little gentleman Simon will grow to be. Hugs to you, yours, and sweet Faith. Love – Sarah, Lance, Avery and (alas) Romy.
As usual, your breath-taking eloquence makes my words sound clumsy by comparison.
There are many types of floods. Floods of water, tears, joyful feelings, pain. Maybe a flood can have healing powers, somehow wiping the slate clean once in a while so we can start fresh and build hope again.
Cry away when you need to, Jane. Let the flood come. A tear-free existence wouldn’t be much of an existence, would it? I do pray that your tears from now on are tears of joy as you continue to watch your beautiful Mona and sweet Simon grow, laugh and love.
Prayers go out to Faith and her family, as well.
Love,
Nicolle and the gang down the street
jane,
there is so much letting go that we have to do as parents. even when they are grown and out in the world. a parent’s heart just aches to know their children are ok. the reality is there are more questions than answers, now. now we muck around (in the rain) getting wet and dirty, worry until we are sick, lay at the foot of the cross and cry and plead and submit,exhausted. and then we get up and change diapers or go about our day and blow kisses into the wind to those we love so far away.
mona has not run out of time.
i am believing for you and i hold you and yours in my prayers.
love,
jackie
j, a, s, and r,
i so hopeful with you for this news. this post brought tears to my eyes. i love your kids, and they are such a great reflection of their amazingly strong, loving parents. thank you for sticking it out and not giving up. thank you for loving ramona and simon more than anyone else on this earth can. they are so lucky to have you.
love you all.
Rachel
Oh, friends… hard to know what to say but that we love you, we cry with you, we pray for you, we feel you. As a parent, in a different stage, with different issues, I share your exhaustion and grief and hope and joy. All of you are so precious, so beautiful, so loved. Soldier on, brave children of a broken God…
sending our prayers thoughts and love your way! your children are beautiful thanks for the new pictures! they are so cute!!!! I hope that you enjoy mothers day tomorrow ..~ wyndi steven and Izzy
Happy Mother’s Day!!
I could have sworn that I already posted about how cute those pics are (or maybe it was just in my “going-old-too-fast-mind!)
I hope those kiddos spoiled you today!!!
You can just look at their sweet faces…and see that they keep you smiling (and hopping!)
Hugs,
kathy
I just wanted to say that I am thinking about you guys today and saying some prayers that they are able to do some widening and accomplish all that is hoped for.
Kelly (Jack’s mom)
We are with you today.
Y’all are in thoughts and prayers. Hope all went well.
Hope all went well yesterday and Mona is recovering beautifully. I also hope you guys got some answers.
Thinking of you, Liza (Abby’s mom)
Hi sweet Jane. I know I’m late on posting this but I’ve stayed up to date. Glad to know you got “a solid double” as Andy put it and that everyone is home.
Wish I could give you a hug. We could have a good cry together. My dam broke this week too. I heard that another (key word) Charleston child lost her battle with a brain tumor – different tumor but still… It was like starting over. What if I lose him? What if this doesn’t turn out like I pray it will? Though our children are dealing with different challenges, I understand you and I am crying with you. For both our children. For all of those who have to suffer through the rain and floods. I will never stop praying for a God-glorifying miracle for Ramona.
Through joy and pain, HE never lets go.